This month my wife and I are celebrating 24 years of marriage. Looking back over all these years, we can see that one thing–and one thing only–has kept us together. That one thing is our commitment to each other and to our marriage. Commitment is a pretty powerful thing, when you think about it.
On our wedding day, Vicki and I committed our lives to each other "until death do us part." Like most couples, we took our vows quite seriously. Little did we realize what hard work marriage would be. It wasn't long until all those feelings of love and romance were tested with the ups and downs of life-differing opinions and expectations, juggling two careers, moving away from family and friends, having babies, financial difficulties, communication breakdowns, etc. Fortunately we have learned that love is more than feelings–that true love is a commitment-and through the difficulties, we have continually pulled together and often reaffirmed our commitment to each other. In doing so, we are always able to get through the tough times, and our marriage has actually gotten stronger in the process.
Probably one of the smartest decisions we have ever made is to take the word divorce out of our vocabulary. Being committed means we are in this together for life and it is the key to a long and healthy marriage.
In this day and age, when all around us there is so much dysfunction and break down in society it is vital that we show a strong united front in our homes. Children need to see Mom and Dad committed to each other and their family.
Commitment to persevere and follow through is a character trait that is developed by doing it. Following through with our commitments brings many other benefits, as well: a good reputation, a sense of self-worth, confidence, pride, wealth, strong relationships, and health. May I encourage you to stay focused on keeping your commitments?
